Fear is part of human nature and is important for emotional development, especially for children. After all, it is fear that helps us to assess the dangers and possible threats to our health, for example. However, it is necessary to be careful with excess fear , as this feeling can damage our relationships and our way of dealing with the world. So, how to identify if fear beyond normal is part of your son or daughter’s life? See below and find out what you can do to help!

What is fear?

Fear is directly linked to anxiety . Therefore, these words are almost synonymous with psychology. It is fear that allows us to decide whether to face or flee a threat, for example. And, even, to identify if it is real.

In the case of children, there are fears that are considered healthy. This is because they are typical fears of childhood and, therefore, should not concern parents and guardians. Some examples would be the fear of strangers, of changes , of fireworks , of the dark , of the big bad wolf and even of the dentist and Santa Claus .

And there are also passing fears , which arise and disappear without major influences on children’s lives. Generally, all of these are manageable fears , as the mere presence of the mother, father or other caregiver is sufficient to keep the child safe.

However, in some cases, this danger-checking mechanism can happen in an exacerbated or fanciful way. When this happens, the child is harmed and may develop anxiety disorders and phobias . In this sense, the small and the small demonstrate fears of specific things and places, without real justifications.

How to know if there is fear beyond normal?

Parents and guardians must identify whether fear is disrupting the routine or preventing the child from performing activities that he or she enjoys. In those cases in which the child closes in front of the world, fear deserves greater attention. Therefore, it is important that caregivers learn to distinguish the fear that comes from the fear that has no justification.

A child who has been bitten by a dog, for example, may be afraid of dogs. It is a normal situation. However, if she is afraid of dogs without having had contact with one or frequently avoids a path because of the animal, even in the presence of the parents, this can already be a disproportionate fear, causing suffering in the child. That is, it needs proper treatment.

In addition, it is very common for children not to verbalize their fears. However, they show signs such as belly pain, palpitation, nausea and lack of control to pee, for example. Therefore, realizing when these situations occur is important to recognize the source of the fear of the small or small.

Thus, the first step for parents and guardians is observation . Be aware of the child’s fears. If you notice something different, do not hesitate to seek help from a child psychologist. In fact, you can also ask the school to appoint a suitable professional to deal with this situation.

How to deal with fear beyond normal?

To deal with excessive fear, the support of a child psychologist is necessary. However, in addition to professional help, parents and guardians can help the child who is afraid with some attitudes . Follow us!

    1. Talk to the child about his fears and listen to what he has to say. It is important that the child feels safe to share his fears and insecurities, without fear of judgment. So, be understanding to help her face this situation.
    2. Never use the child’s fear as a means of power over him. Threats and punishments will only intensify your fears.
    3. When the child visits unfamiliar environments, such as the school, a friend’s house or the doctor’s office, for example, let him choose a familiar object to accompany him. This will give you more security.
    4. Use strategies to distract the child from his fear, talking naturally and without exaggeration.
    5. Speak the truth about real fears. Lies will not help the child to face his fears. In addition, the small and small ones need to build up notions of the real dangers.